As you know, my little guy turned 1 a couple of weeks ago. So, as most of us Canadian women do, I have returned to work. Hence why my blog got a bit quiet, we’ve all been adjusting to this new routine! Ever since I gave birth, I was dreading this moment. The moment where I’d have to leave my young child with a stranger for 5 days out of 7 and go back to work. It happens to everyone at one point or another and we all deal with it differently. I thought I’d share with you how things have been going with us, in case this moment is coming up for you and you’re freaking out a tiny bit (like I did)!
First of all let me reassure you – it ain’t that bad. I think the anticipation was worst. Yes it will take a few days, maybe weeks, for you and your baby to adjust to the new routine, but overall, this change will bring some positives to your lives (believe it or not). Let’s look at it from the baby’s side of things – playing with friends all day is way more fun than being home alone with mama (let’s be honest). Your child will learn way more by interacting with others than playing by him/herself at home. We started the transition at about 11-months and I highly recommend it. If it’s possible, start bringing your baby to the daycare or babysitter’s before you actually go back to work. Increase the amount of time you leave him/her there every week. That definitely helped a ton for us. Yes, they will still go through phases where they will cry when you drop them off, even if they love it there, but remember that these phases pass (remember whey they used to wake up every 2 hours at night… ya – that phase past as well).
On mommy’s end of things – having time to think and drink your coffee hot instead of cold is kinda nice! Didn’t have much of that on mat leave! For me, during the first year of my baby’s life, I only did that. Baby stuff. (okay maybe 90% of the time, but that’s still a lot). On my free time, I’d google baby-related questions or sleep. Now, I get to be a mommy but also the creative professional that I am (or that I think I am)! Yes, the morning and evening routines are hectic, but I feel like I spend more quality time with my baby than before, if that’s possible. I WANT to play with him when I get home from work and on the weekends. I have way more patience and I just feel more accomplished as a person.
I’m on week 3 of being back at work and I already forgot what it was like to be home 100% of the time. Yes, some days are more challenging than others, I especially struggle with mom-guilt when my baby is teething and feeling a bit off or if he cried that morning when I dropped him off. But, when I pick him up after work and hear about what he did that day, it’s always positive and makes me feel better.
If you have any questions, feel free to get in touch in the comments! Thanks for stopping by!